We are capable of ditching self-doubt. Self-hatred doesn’t even exist in some cultures:
‘When a group of American psychologists met with the Dalai Lama, he asked what difficulties are most common for Western Buddhist students. One of the most mentioned and strongest was self-hatred. The Dalai Lama’s reaction was incredulous, for self-hatred doesn’t exist in Tibetan culture. He went around the room asking, ‘Have you too experienced this self-hate?’ Almost everyone said yes.”
– Jack Kornfield, After the Ecstasy, the Laundry:How the Heart Grows Wise on the Spiritual Path
The way to combat this self-hatred and doubt is to remind ourselves of how worthy we are.
Writing yourself a love letter may seem like a daunting task or one that you’d like to skip over, but don’t do it. You are too important.
Here are some jumping off points:
- Start with a list of the things you like about yourself. Your sense of humor? How well you can spell? That you can shake it on the dance floor…
- What do you do for the world and for others?
- Do you receive compliments? Write them down.
- Is there a particular memory you have of when you acted with integrity?
- What was your proudest moment?
- Did someone thank you for something recently? Take that to heart and write it down.
Now you’re ready. Get your pen and paper (or download the template below) and write your letter.